I’m blowing out 36 candles today. Actually, I probably won’t blow out anymore than one, but you get the point.
36 Candles
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Living with Intention
I told you on Sunday that today I would share more about living with intention. Happy New Year!
Three Months Until the New Year
From today, October 1, it is exactly three months until the new year.
I listened to two incredible podcasts this past weekend. One podcast said that you should make a 5 and 10-year goal plan. The other said she used to make a 5 and 10-year goal plan, but now she only makes super short, bite-sized (and achievable) goals.
Which is the right answer?
There isn’t one because both Rachel Hollis (podcast #1 I listened to) and Amy Jo Martin (podcast #2 I listened to) are highly successful and motivated women I respect.
Three Months Until the New Year
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I recently stumbled upon THIS image. I love it so hard, and she is lovely to follow.
6 months is a good amount of time, but lately, I feel like I fall more into the super short, bite-sized goals. Today, tomorrow, and next week seem more manageable to me than anything else.
So I’m spinning off from hers with my own because today is three months until the new year.
I believe that some goals are best when spoken aloud, shared with someone else (accountability).
But I’m in a season currently where 95% of my goals are tucked away, deep within. And the reason I love this idea of a silent goal so much is because it feels more like a goal meant for me than an accolade to present to someone else.
Sometimes I think when we feel the need to share our goals online (especially on social media) or offline it’s less about accountability, and more about “look at what I am doing.” Don’t worry, I’ve done it plenty, too.
I have set 5 very intentional silent goals to focus on from now through December 31. And when I say intentional it’s because they all address the things I’m looking to improve on in my personal life in 2019.
My silent goals do not include anything food or fitness related, probably for the first time in my life. But yours might, and that is just fine because again, these are your own silent goals.
So how do you know what silent goals to set? I believe you know deep down, if you just sit for a few minutes and listen to what your gut is saying. I’ve felt them for a long time; I’d guess you have, too.
If not, ask yourself some of these questions:
- Am I happy in my career?
- Do I enjoy my chosen field or is there something else that excites me; would that something else require additional schooling?
- What outstanding health issues hold me down daily? Do I even know what they are? If not, how can I figure it out?
- Are my days filled with joy? If not, why?
- How is my marriage / relationship?
- Do my daily activities match up to my true priorities?
- Is there something I think about daily, but have yet to act upon?
- What / where is my missing link?
- Will I be okay with the fact that nothing has changed on December 31? And if the answer is “no,” why? What must change?
Once you know what your goal(s) is/are, make them SMART(ER) goals to set yourself up for real success. You already know what #5 is – December 31.
Three months is kind of an odd timeframe. It’s not 21 days. It’s not a year, or 5 years, or 10 years.
Dedicate the next three months to your goals….no announcements, nothing fancy. Just do the work.
Xox,
SKH
40 Before 40
I made a 40 before 40 list today for my 35th birthday.
When I turned 32, I created a list of 105 things I wanted to do in 1,095 days. Yesterday I shared the review of those 105 things.
I didn’t complete 105 things in 3 years, but I would love to see the completion of 40 things in the next 5 years.
105 in 1,095 Review
Tomorrow I turn 35 which means that 1,095 days have already gone by since I had this idea to do 105 in 1,095 days. Before moving forward, I thought it would be fun to do a 105 in 1,095 review.
105 in 1,095 Review
In case you’re new around here, on my 32nd birthday, I created a list of 105 things I wanted to do by the time I was 35 (3 years or 1,095 days).
The full list can be found HERE.
Yesterday I updated it.
Did I complete all 105? Not even close. But was I shocked by how many things I did do? Yes. Absolutely yes, especially some of the big things.
Here are my top 7 things I crossed off from the list:
- Number 3: Finalize Samarah’s adoption (It’s crazy to think that just three years ago she wasn’t even adopted yet.)
- Number 7: Adopt baby/child #2 (Isaiah)
- Number 14: Begin writing a book (That would be Gravel Roads)
- Number 33: Get baptized (again)
- Number 59: Be in our forever home (or have a plan for it) (We are not in it, but the plans are set to move in this upcoming fall or early winter, 2018!)
- Number 74: Make a vision board
- Number 4 from the bonus list: Samarah’s Gotcha Day video (we made not one, but 3 of them! view them: Gotcha Day Video 1, Gotcha Day Video 2, Gotcha Day Video 3)
And these are the top 9 things I wish I could have crossed off from that list:
- Number 4: Go to Vietnam
- Number 11: Do 7 unassisted pull-ups (that said, I guess I didn’t even try)
- Number 27: Read the Bible (ugh)
- Number 38: Take an official food photography class (nope, still haven’t done this….a couple random ones online, but nothing in-person)
- Number 58: See Miranda Lambert in concert
- Number 67: Go on a mission trip
- Number 77: Begin concept and implementation of: “You Got Smoothied” or “You Got Real Food-ed” (surprising people with random drops of goodies, real food style vs. the standard chemical, additive and preservative-laden junk) (this one wouldn’t have been hard, I just forgot about it)
- Number 87: Write The Gutsy Girl’s Bible: an approach to healing the gut, 3.0 (It’s ALMOST done, and will release during my 35th year!)
- Number 89: Have my Social Media Content class become an online program in addition to an ongoing on-campus class (However, I eventually want to put the content together in an e-book for anyone to consume since I spent like a hundred hours building it out!)
The most unexpected thing that was not on the list was to finalize baby #3’s adoption. When I created that list, all I wrote was, “(begin the process of) adopting baby/child #3.”
It still seems unreal to me that during the past 1,095 days we finalized 3 adoptions!
I am so glad I made the 105 in 1,095 list because I would return to it from time-to-time to see what I had accomplished, and to be reminded of things I wanted to cross off next.
What I learned, looking back, is twofold:
- 105 things, whether they are small or not-so-small, are hard to accomplish in 1,095 days. When I made the list, I thought (for most of them anyway) “Easy peasy squeezy. I have three whole years to get these done.” But three years goes by in the blink of an eye, and even though it seems like such a long time, in order to accomplish 105 specific things, you’d have to be very planned and intentional almost daily.
- The best things cannot be planned out. They totally just happen, sometimes (usually) when least expected. But that said….
My new list is almost complete, and I’m going to share it with you tomorrow for my birthday!
Xox,
SKH
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These posts will all live under “Wellness+Lifestyle” and also tagged with “101 Days of Blogging.” The 101-day series runs from Monday, January 8, 2018, through Wednesday, April 18, 2018.
If there is a topic surrounding change that you would love for me to include in this series, please just CONTACT ME.
Previous 101-Day Change Series Posts
- Beginnings are Scary
- Change Pain Point
- Making Sense of Change
- Gratitude Journal
- Love Your Baby Girl
- Little Things Add Up
- House and Home
- Sunday Reflections
- Two
- Chocolate Shake
- 3-Ingredient Chocolate Peanut Butter Banana Shake
- Chaos is a Temporary State
- Thirsty Thursday
- Month One
- The Nudge to Connect
- 11 Favorites from 11 Years in California
- One Box at a Time
- Good Enough is Enough
- There is No Dishwasher
- WWDW Number 8
- Move Initiated
- Sharing My Journey
- Back with the Tribe
- Small Town Grocery Shopping Part One
- January 2018 Catch Up Over Bone Broth
- Patsy Clairmont is My Spirit Animal
- Let There Be Light
- Forgot About Rae
- Smiles
- Coconut Oil Makeup Remover How To
- 9 Ways to Embrace Winter
- Escaping People
- Coming Home
2018 Personal Goals
I love, love, love setting goals. Maybe it’s my stringent Type A personality, but goals make me feel alive. That said, the 2018 personal goals I’ve set look vastly different than the 2017 personal goals I set last year.
Last year there were 14 personal goals set. From that list, the ones I accomplished were numbers: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 7, 8, 9 (kind of because, well, the move), and 10. Additionally, there were several more unafraid/fitness goals set. From that list, the ones I accomplished were: running in general, race short distance, race 1/2 marathon (which I finally set a new PR – since 2009!), hike Yosemite – to address my fear of heights, and continue strength training. I did not do a full marathon or Spartan race, and neither are no longer goals.
This year, I’m making a list of just 8 goals because, well, change.
The changes that are happening and about to happen require me to just embrace them vs. trying to go above and beyond x’s 100 like I am normally used to doing.
2018 Personal Goals
- Help my mom and dad every single chance I can. This, besides just embracing change, is probably my number one goal. We start this upcoming Thursday. I’ll stay at my mom and dads the night before and early Thursday morning will drive them to Minneapolis so my dad can start chemo.
- Trail race in Minnesota! In the November 2017 recap, I mentioned, “I was thisclose to running a December Brazen, but my conscious got the best of me and said, “Nope. Rest. Recover. Build strength.” So instead, I researched and think I’ve found my next race. It’s on May 19, 2018 (plenty of recovery and building time!). I’d tell you where and what it is, but then I’d have to kill you. Bwahahahah.” I couldn’t share the race at the time because it’s in Minnesota, but now I can. It’s the Superior 25KM! It’s a lottery race, but January 1 I’ll be waiting to get in.
- Release The Gutsy Girl’s Bible: an approach to healing the gut 3.0 (And guess what? It’s almost done!)
- Sugar-free January. This isn’t about weight loss – believe me. I don’t believe in detoxes or stringent diets any longer (because my gut has healed immensely and I don’t need to). That said, a break from all sugar for a month, I believe, is just good practice. Don’t worry about me, though, sugar-free means I can still have white rice and coconut oil – so we’re good to go 🙂 p.s. Anyone want to join me?!
- Continue growing all aspects of my business (I had a financial goal to hit by the time I was 35. I’ll be 35 in February, and have hit it, so now I want to make a goal of hitting that number x 1.5 by the end of the year. I’m on track to pass that number up. How I’ve done it?! Almost 10 years of building and staying consistent + having a massive passion for every single thing I touch from a “work” standpoint, and several years of making my clients and everyone I do business with succeed.)
- Join the Food52 Baking Club (after January, of course – ha) I spend all my time creating recipes for clients that I have lost the art of doing it for myself and our family – for fun. I’m hoping this will help.
- Do all the Minnesota things, including, but not limited to: go to a Vikings game, go to a Wild game, watch our nieces and nephews play sports, try new restaurants – farm-to-table – in the Minneapolis area, visit and hike and/or run as many Minnesota trails as I can, snowshoe (my parents got me a pair for Christmas), summer at the lake, fish with my brother (not ice fishing, and please don’t tell him I said this because he will be far too excited), get involved in our hometown – the place we decided to settle for good, eat something I’ve never tried at the MN State Fair, network with people in the natural food industry, and CHOOSE to spend a ton of time with family and friends we have missed for 11 years.
- Travel: Italy, Northern Minnesota, Chicago, New York, Missouri, Anaheim (Expo West baby) and (maybe) Palm Springs are already in the plans.
I also want to blog, blog, blog. In addition to the usual things and topics I love sharing and helping you with – gut healing + living a healthier lifestyle and foster-to-adoption namely – there are so many “lifestyle” topics, events, and other “things” I have been tucking away that will surface.
But beyond those top 8 and blogging in general – that’s it (and yes, that’s a major cut for the goals I usually set at the New Year). There is nothing super concrete or lofty as in year’s past. There are no major fitness or food or big lifestyle goals. I am super comfortable with where I’m at and only have plans to keep doing the same things I’ve been doing the last several months – because it’s working, all of it. Consistency works. It really, truly does.
There are no lofty goals because I absolutely, positively must embrace change and I must help my children, husband, mom, dad, and JJ do the same as well.
I don’t expect that the year ahead will be predictable.
If anything, it’s going to be unpredictable, so I’m just going to roll with my 2018 personal goals one day at a time.
How about you? Did you create 2018 personal goals? If so, what are they?
Xox,
SKH