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This is Us

Filed Under: Adoption, Inspire, Love, Raising Baby Tagged With: adoption, foster adopt, life, love, national adoption month

This is Us www.sarahkayhoffman.com Samarah, Reagan, Isaiah, Ryan #adoption #fostercareadoption #adopt #lifestyleblogger

By now, everyone and their mother’s brother’s aunt’s uncle’s sister’s cousin knows of, has seen and loves that TV show, This is Us.

I am constantly identifying with the show, mostly with Rebecca.

While I don’t relate with losing a husband (and I pray for something so devastating to never happen), I do relate to being a mom of three and adopting plus raising a child of a different race.

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November 2, 2018 By Sarah Kay Hoffman Leave a Comment

Firsts with Us

Filed Under: Adoption, Love, Raising Baby Tagged With: adoption, foster adopt, gotcha day

Firsts with Us www.sarahkayhoffman.com Amiya Gotcha Day Anniversary #gotchaday #fosteradoption #adoption #fostercare

Today is the first day of fall (amen hallelujah). It’s also Amiya’s first Gotcha Day anniversary. For Maya’s Gotcha Day anniversary post, I thought I’d share her firsts with us.

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September 22, 2018 By Sarah Kay Hoffman 2 Comments

Adoption Isn’t For Us

Filed Under: Adoption, Infertility, Inspire, Love, Raising Baby Tagged With: adoption, foster adopt, inspire, love, raising baby

Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhfofman.com Samarah 3 year Gotcha Day anniversary #lifestyleblogger #fosteradoption #adoption

We will celebrate the ‘Gotcha Day’ anniversary three times each year, and each time we do, I’ll have something to share – child specific or on adoption in general. Today I’m sharing about the four words I hear (or see written) often, “Adoption isn’t for us.”

Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhfofman.com Samarah 3 year Gotcha Day anniversary #lifestyleblogger #fosteradoption #adoption

Three years ago today, our little Samarah officially became Samarah Josephina Hoffman.

I didn’t know the angle I wanted to take for Samarah’s Gotcha Day, until Samarah made it so clear last night.

Sometimes she and I like to play the whispering game. I tell her a secret, and then she tells me a secret. Last night I started the session by whispering to her, “Samarah, tomorrow is your Gotcha Day anniversary. Tell mama what that means.” 

I got nothing from her. She whispered a few random things to me, and then she was done. Until she wasn’t. She walked back to me, and told me she had one more thing.

Maybe you can be Black like me.

Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhfofman.com Samarah 3 year Gotcha Day anniversary courthouse #lifestyleblogger #fosteradoption #adoption

My mom asked me, “So what did you say?”

You guys want the truth? I just couldn’t stop laughing. Nothing gets by little Sam; nothing. And then she finished her thought,

Maybe we could just paint your skin, Mama.

Besides the fact that I just love that little girl with my whole heart, it helped reel me in for her 3-year Gotcha Day anniversary post.

Adoption Isn’t for Us

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Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhfofman.com Samarah 3 year Gotcha Day anniversary #lifestyleblogger #fosteradoption #adoption

Samarah and I are so different, and she was born to a woman I can’t relate to in the slightest. 

But there is something about our connection and how much I adore her every move that’s almost biological. 

I think about this so much, and I have thought about this so much, during this past year.

In case you aren’t aware, infertility is on the rise, and I meet, talk to, and even know many of the “infertile” women who have walked in my shoes. 

I’m not the person to push for any decision. To each is own. If you are unable to conceive a child on your own, then the path to getting a child is miraculous in and of its own. 

Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhfofman.com Samarah 3 year Gotcha Day anniversary San Joaquin county state of california courthouse #lifestyleblogger #fosteradoption #adoption

But sometimes when I hear – or see it written – “adoption isn’t for us; it’s just not” – I can’t help but wonder, “Why?”

There are challenges that come with it. I have stated it before, and will talk about it, openly, forever. But have you ever met a mama (or family in general) that didn’t have challenges? 

Some women tell me it’s their husband. “He just doesn’t think we would love the child like our own.”

I can never be Black like Samarah (and no, we aren’t painting my face, sweet darling!) But here’s what I know:

  • If I could look like my stunning children, I would. 
  • From the very first moment I laid eyes on Samarah, I never desired birthing my own child again.
  • While there are surprises and things you don’t know/can’t possibly know about children you adopt, I’d argue that it’s the same thing for children you birth. Heck, I just learned things about my best friends this past weekend that I didn’t even know. 

Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhfofman.com Samarah 3 year Gotcha Day anniversary bench bear certificate #lifestyleblogger #fosteradoption #adoption

I always wanted to adopt, just not in the way it happened. I’ll even make it very clear that, during IVF, I’d gather I told myself over-and-over, “….because adoption isn’t for us.”

And in the end, after everything – adoption has been the very best thing Ryan and I have ever known. In 2015 I said, “adoption has changed our lives.” I believe that more than ever today, and while I maintain to never push anyone to adoption / foster-adoption, I won’t ever stop talking about how it might be the greatest blessing someone may have ever known.

Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhoffman.com foster adoption quote #lifestyleblogger #family #quote #adoption

And to you, Samarah Josephina Hoffman, today:

Mama can never be Black like you. There will never be another oh-so-beautiful Samarah Josephina like you, in all the world. Mama tells you it constantly, “Jesus made you that way.” And I’ll tell you every single day that same skin color or not; same blood or not, you are my little angel forever. You were the birth for an eruption deep in my soul that said “Yes, ah yes. Now I get it. Everything is totally, and magically, beautiful in its time.”

Adoption Isn't For Us www.sarahkayhfofman.com Samarah 3 year Gotcha Day anniversary #fosteradopt #adoption #lifestyleblogger #fostercare

p.s. Wanna know a little secret? I’ve been feeling this strong desire to write and work on that pivotal, life-changing mantra that helped guide (and continues to guide) my life. The title: Ecclesiastes 3:11.

Xox,
SKH

July 10, 2018 By Sarah Kay Hoffman 4 Comments

8 Ways to Celebrate Gotcha Day Anniversary

Filed Under: Adoption Tagged With: adoption, foster adopt, gotcha day

I have 8 ways to celebrate Gotcha Day anniversary with Y’all today.

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June 13, 2018 By Sarah Kay Hoffman Leave a Comment

Tummy Mommy Sequel

Filed Under: Adoption, Inspire, Love, Raising Baby Tagged With: adoption, foster adopt, love, raising baby

Tummy Mommy Sequel www.sarahkayhoffman.com Samarah and elk

I have the Tummy Mommy sequel to share with you today, and if you’ve followed my blog for at least a year, you’ll remember the original post, “Tummy Mommy.”

It’s completely ironic and totally unplanned that this conversation happened yesterday because the original conversation happened almost exactly a year ago, on May 21, 2017.

Tummy Mommy Sequel

The conversation happened on the way to school first thing yesterday morning. 

Here and there throughout the past year, Samarah would refer to that Tummy Mommy conversation from almost a year ago, but never in the way like what transpired yesterday.

It all started when Samarah put up 4 fingers in the backseat of the truck and stated, “Mommy, Juni is 4 like me.” Juni is Juniper and it’s one of my best friend’s daughters that she likes to play with whenever we can. She and Juniper are only a couple months apart in age, and I think she enjoys both their similarities and differences.

Tummy Mommy Sequel www.sarahkayhoffman.com Samarah and Juni Juniper

So I said, “Yes. Yes, you’re right.”

I then started telling Samarah how she was born in the hospital and then just a couple months later Juni was born.

Samarah replied, “Was she in her mommy’s tummy at the doctor?”

“She sure was, Samarah. Meg. You know Meg, mommy’s friend. Remember, that’s Juni’s mommy?”

Samarah sat there for probably 30 seconds. I could see the wheels spinning in her little mind. She was trying to process it all. 

And then she said, “…..so was I in your tummy or not?”

I explained the whole Tummy Mommy thing again to her, reminding her that no, no she was never in my belly, but that as soon as she came out of the Tummy Mommy’s belly, I was right there to get her.

“And Samarah, then you got your own mommy just like Juni has Meg; do you know who it is?”

She smiled in the most precious way, pointed her pointer finger at me and said, “You. You are my mommy.”

Tummy Mommy Sequel www.sarahkayhoffman.com Samarah and elk

Conversation done. Or maybe not.

Samarah sat there for a few more seconds and said, “But did Amiya and Isaiah get to be in your tummy?”

“No. Amiya and Isaiah have their own Tummy Mommy, and you have a Tummy Mommy, but no one was in my tummy.”

And she asked, “What is my Tummy Mommy’s name?”

I told her. She paused.

“What is Isaiah and Amiya’s Tummy Mommy’s name?”

Again, I told her. She paused. (Side note: Amiya and Isaiah’s birth mom’s name kind of sort of sounds like Tiana, so when I told her it she got far too excited and said, “What?! Tiana?!” <— c’mon guys, get in the Princess know; that’s Princess Tiana she thought was their Tummy Mommy.)

Samarah asked why they couldn’t be in my tummy, and it was my turn to pause for minute because I wasn’t sure what to say; the words she would understand and just in general.

I responded, “That’s a really great question, Samarah, but I don’t have the answer. Mommy could not have a baby, so God gave me the best gift – a Tummy Mommy to give me you.”

It was both a happy and sad moment and response for me on so many levels, but it soon washed away when Samarah blurted out, “I think it’s because your tummy is too small, Mommy.” I laughed.

And then the grand finale to our conversation happened, just as I was unbuckling her carseat. 

Samarah looked me in the eyes and said, “Mommy, can I see my Tummy Mommy someday?” 

I responded immediately, “Yes, Samarah, of course you can. I will help you see her when you’re bigger, okay?”

She replied, “Okay, but only if you come with me. I don’t want you to leave, Mommy.”

“Never, Samarah. I’ll be your mama forever, and you’ll always be my little angel…..remember?”

And off to preschool she went.

Tummy Mommy Sequel www.sarahkayhoffman.com Samarah 4-years-old cowgirl boots

All the emotions, thoughts, and reflections in such a short car ride. 

I had mixed feelings about her wanting to meet her birth mom (especially now that she’s able to verbalize it), but know deep down that my commitment to always being open and honest with our children will never change. 

I also realized how much a year changes things, and how much she’s grown and understands even just a short year later.

Sometimes I try to prepare myself for all the questions and moments like our Tummy Mommy conversations, but it’s impossible, and that’s the one area of control that I don’t feel pressure for. 

When Samarah wants to talk and has questions, I am fully present to just answer them as they come to me. 

My goal is to always have them know about the Tummy Mommy without it ever taking away their securities that Mommy (me) is no different than any other child’s mommy.

Not for a single day has Samarah ever felt like anything but my own.

Xox,
SKH

May 30, 2018 By Sarah Kay Hoffman 5 Comments

Just One Child

Filed Under: Adoption, Inspire, Love Tagged With: foster adopt, holiday, inspire, love, quote

Just One Child sarahkayhoffman.com Foster Children Christmas Samarah Target cart

In December of 2012, I wanted just one child. 

My goal for the Foster Children Christmas project was to help just one child.

I stood on top of a ladder yesterday, snapped a picture of all this, and I felt like crying (for approximately the 100th time yesterday). Just One Child sarahkayhoffman.com Foster Children Christmas California San Joaquin County

Just One Child

It all started yesterday morning. Isaiah’s teacher came and we started talking about all the toys I had bought and collected for foster children. She knew the bigger answer as to “why” I did gather all these things, but she still wondered, “Why…and how did you start?” 

I told her about the December in 2012 when I wanted just one child. I walked into Target one day alone and I saw all the baby and toddler Christmas outfits, Santa things, and mama’s buying gifts for their littles.

I cried in those moments of wish, hope, and desire. Just One Child sarahkayhoffman.com Foster Children Christmas Target checkout

But it was okay because I had a mission. If even just one child had a brighter Christmas because of something I did, then that was my reason for the 2012 Christmas season. In fact, if you’ve never read the post, I documented the whole thing on December 3, 2012 – Eight Months Ago.

I shared with Isaiah’s teacher the eight months ago story and then said, “And just one year later we had Samarah, but I never, ever forgot that day in Target, and the desire to keep on helping just one child around the holiday season.”

Each year since, we have always gotten several things from the Angel Tree at church.

And then this year, I chose 3 tags from the Angel Tree (one thing from each of my children that resembled them – i.e. 18-month girl clothes). I also decided to ask all of you for help with the Foster Children Christmas. Because I never ask people to do something I am not also doing, we, too, went on a Foster Children Christmas shopping spree and then I gave San Joaquin County a final check from us for help with any miscellaneous things a child(ren) might need now or in the near future. Just One Child sarahkayhoffman.com Foster Children Christmas Samarah Target cart

My mind has played over-and-over-and-over again how forever grateful and indebted I feel to the state of California and the San Joaquin and Alameda County Foster Care system. Just One Child sarahkayhoffman.com Foster Children Christmas Toys

I cannot, in any way, shape, or form ever repay anyone for the 3 beautiful little beings I get to call my own.

But…..if it’s the last thing I ever do in my life, I will keep on helping just one child, one holiday season, one random day at a time.

Thank you, thank you, thank you…..to everyone who sent something for the Foster Children Christmas project. I know that this time of year is hard. Everyone – everywhere is asking for a donation or two, or seven. I know that y’all have your own child(ren), family, and friends to buy for. 

Just looking at all of these toys makes me know that together WE just helped make a child’s Christmas a little brighter.

And with that, my work in San Joaquin County has come to an end. 

But this is only the beginning.

Click HERE to save this Stephen Covey quote for later (because it’s simply beautiful).

Just One Child sarahkayhoffman.com Foster Children Christmas impact Quote Stephen Covey

Xox,
SKH

December 16, 2017 By Sarah Kay Hoffman Leave a Comment

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