Let the concept of “discipline is correction driven by love” sink in for just a moment.
Discipline is Correction Driven By Love
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Pastor Nolan came to MOPS a couple weeks back. He talked about parenting and discipline. He gave us two foundations for discipline; one being that which is correction driven by love.
I know nothing about discipline (yet!) as it relates to parenting. The most discipline I have to give the baby is, “Seriously, Sam, stop breaking my heart with that smile.”
I do, however, know a thing or two (or a hundred) about discipline as it relates to food and more importantly as that food-discipline relates to healing the gut.
Gosh, you’re so disciplined. I could never eat the way you do.
If I had a nickel for every time I have heard that….
Discipline isn’t something we do to ourselves, but rather it’s something we do for ourselves….under one condition: that it’s done out of love.
In high school, college and even beyond then, my food discipline was driven by hate, even though I would never have described it as such back then.
I hated a lot about myself. I fueled that with food discipline. Ironically, even the things I did eat proved that hate, not love, were ultimately being practiced.
Back in the day, “discipline” was:
- little food
- consequences for eating food
- eating only fat-free, sugar-free, “Weight-Watchers-ish” type chemically-packaged products
I confessed this briefly once.
The “discipline” I practice today is:
- food, real food
- fat, lots of fat
- quality, no compromises
- healing, not diets
Discipline, not deprivation. Huge difference.
We all have motivations for the way we eat and the way we live. But ask yourself:
Is what I’m doing driven by love or hate?
That answer could be key in your healing or not healing.
I feel far from deprived.
My gut and my body are not perfect, but I continue to get better. I am finally giving my body what it was so desperate for for 21+ years.
Don’t be fooled, my current discipline driven from love is not easy. Then again, neither was the former discipline.
I’ll choose love over hate any day.
Xox,
SKH
You will heal. I will help.
LOVE this post! I hear that exact phrase ALL the time! What people do not realize is that we weren’t born this way and we have a past too! I used to eat whole pizzas by myself, cookies every day and drank like a fish most days out if the week. Now I eat this way because it makes me feel my very best! I’m still not perfect and never will be, but it’s all about progress and not perfection!
I couldn’t agree more. Rarely do I ever eat anything anymore that I know will make me feel bad. I did this past weekend and I am beyond achy today.
Very well said friend. I think god has taught me a lot about HIS disciple and his purpose. It begins with healing and nourishing from the inside out. And knowledge! Learning it all
Thank you for this post, Sarah. It was exactly what I needed to hear today. It is time for me to make some real changes.
xo
Nicole